4. Vengeful: Unfortunately, FPD flamers constantly start flamewars: they have an enormous NEED to respond to all insults, even the tiny ones, and even to the ones which any bystander would see as an obvious misunderstanding. Some FPD-ers see others' lack of vengefulness as being disgusting weakness: "I insulted you, and you're such a weakling that you just ignored it."
2. Competitive/argumentative:FPD flamers are verbal brawlers, they obviously enjoy fierce arguments and flamewars. And their stance is pure aggressive competition, "kill or be killed," where giving ground or working cooperatively with colleagues is impossible. "If you're not a winner, you're a loooooser!" Often they are extremely uncreative, and see success as something to be stolen from opponents. They don't manufacture their own "joy", instead they want to take YOURS. To get them to change even a single opinion, you must utterly defeat them in a public battle. And more often than not, they will conveniently forget the entire event, and restore their original opinion the next day. At the same time they (ahem!) label themselves as "Open To Reason," as if applying the label makes it so. Very twisted stuff.
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12. Denying/projecting: They cannot see reality honestly, but must constantly manipulate it by erasing some parts and distorting others. Sometimes their victims don't even have those flaws at all, and the reason for the flamer's attack is nothing but a delusional "projection" of the flamer's flaws onto their victims.
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6. Narcisstic:They cannot let small perceived insults go by, but must respond. This is because they're using a false, artificially good "self-image" in order to remain blind to their own rotten behavior. Their fragile false image is easily damaged by how they're seen by others. As a result, their sensitivity to "What People Think" is very large, and they will go to enormous lengths to avoid being labeled with negative descriptions. Often they will do almost ANYTHING to avoid having their flaws noticed, or to avoid being embarrassed in public. When things aren't going their way, sometimes they'll drop the thread and go silent for days, then upon returning, lie about being "on vacation" or some such. Escaping embarassment definitely includes amazingly desperate attempts to avoid being proved wrong in front of colleagues.
8. No expressed self-doubt. It never occurs to the flamer to first check out if their perception was a mistake. And lacking self-doubt, they will use YOUR self-doubt against you by constantly calling your motives into question during an argument. But note that they never take their own advice and sit down to analyze their OWN motives
9. Self-blind: They cannot see their own mistakes no matter how obvious they to others, and as a result they often act like superior and perfect beings who are surrounded by contemptible inferiors. A capsule description of the pure flamer personality could be "haughty superior arrogance" or "smug sneering contempt." It's not really blindness when someone is fiercely keeping their eyes tight shut.
13. Pervasive, long-standing, intense symptoms: Anyone can get angry and "flame" you. And everyone, including both you and I, has a very large "flamer" side to their personality. But having a temper is not the same as having a mental illness. To have a "Personality Disorder", a person has to BECOME the symptoms, so their whole world is ruled by symptoms and little humaness remains. There is a difference between acting like a flamer from time to time, versus taking on full Flamer-hood 24/7. Of course Personality Disorders are also on a spectrum; just because somebody acts normal occasionally doesn't mean they're not FPD flamers.